Don't accept neutering of yourself or others

Matt Walsh points to behavior that has become increasingly common in our generation:

I certainly can’t read their minds, and I don’t know what goes on behind the scenes, all I know is that the husband couldn’t seem to utter a single phrase that wouldn’t provoke exaggerated eye-rolling from his wife.

She disagreed with everything he said.

She contradicted nearly every statement.

She even nagged him.

She brought up a “funny” story that made him out to be incompetent and foolish. He laughed, but he was embarrassed.

She was gutting him right in front of us. Emasculating him. Neutering him. Damaging him.

It was excruciating.

It was tragic.

It also was, or is becoming, pretty par-for-the-course. The respect deficiency in our culture has reached crisis levels.

Now, some of us are fortunate enough to have wives who understand how awful this sort of behavior makes them look to others. Some of us are fortunate have wives who simply wouldn't do this out of the decency of their own hearts, or perhaps even out of respect for their husbands.

But many men don't.

So, I have two pieces of advice. One is for the men whose wives behave like this. Gentlemen, life is too short. The sex isn't worth it. Don't put up with this. Don't permit anyone, much less your wife, to treat you this way. Call her out. When she nonsensically contradicts you, crush the contradiction and make her look like a fool. When she tries to play belittlement off as a joke, tell her "it's not fucking funny to me."

The other is for the men who witness it. Gentlemen, don't sit there in uncomfortable silence. That sort of woman views silence as acquiescence to her bullying. Call her out. Ask her if her behavior is appropriate. Ask her if she isn't embarrassed to treat her husband like that. Alternatively, agree and amplify. Take the scorn she is pouring on her husband and add to it with apparent glee.

In either case, remember that women are MORTIFIED at being called out in front of the herd. It is their kryptonite. So use it when they get out of line.

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